Why did I put a picture of a beer bottle with slips of paper saying help coming out? It’ll make sense if you read this post till the end.
I’ve had a day some time in the past month where I thought about how we use the time we have every day. Everyone on this planet has the same amount of time per day. Twenty-four hours a day. There is no one that has more or less time. Since it’s harder to measure the span of your life to judge how well you’re doing, look at the use of each week. It’s easier to see this time frame to adjust our behaviours instead of having an annual or decade long retrospection. That’s a totally stupid use of time!
The only difference is how we use the 24 hours. That is the only difference. I thought about how people say I don’t have time for this or that. Instead I think what they mean is, I haven’t made time for this or that. So why do people not do the alternative? Why is it rarely spoken that way?
I think it has to do with where the accountability lies. In the first statement, the blame is on the time, the unit which is TIME is external to the person. It’s outside of the person. On the other hand, the second statement states a personal responsibility for not choosing to do such a thing. Once you accept that you f*cked up, own up to it! I’ll get to how to handle the emotional roller coaster in a later post.
Let’s use an example. People often say, I don’t have time to exercise. It’s not you don’t have time, it’s that you don’t want to spend time to exercise. So say that instead. Let’s say this out loud with me.
I don’t want to spend time to exercise.
Did you feel something inside yourself just release? It’s the feeling of owning up to what you expect yourself to do but if you decide to not to do it, then that’s your choice and no one can take back or change it. Let’s talk about the currency called time.
Time is your currency and it depends on how you spend it every day. It’s up to you and only you can decide how to spend it. You have total control to how you want to spend it. Even if you have cancer , it’s up to you how you want to spend your time. Stop being afraid and be courageous, just say No. Say it out loud, not in your head! Better yet, tell someone! Anyone! Go up to a stranger or your mom and say, I choose not to exercise with my time. Or whatever you want to do but an’t doing.
I’m not saying that I’m perfect in how I spend my time but I try to spend my time the way I want to. For example, you want to spend time with friends? Then setup a dinner or lunch with them or some other activity. You want to spend time with the family? Then come home and cook for them or watch a movie with the family. You want to improve your presentation skills? Then go to Toastmasters to learn how to present better. But don’t say I don’t have time. Just say, I don’t want to do it with my time or that it’s not a priority for me.
In terms of career development, we are most effective in that we spend our time on our strengths to turn ourselves to superstars in these fields. It seems like people like to focus on their weaknesses most of the time but I think turning that to mediocrity is more difficult than becoming a superstar in your strengths.
I keep track of my time religiously. From eating to hobbies everyday except holidays. I just don’t schedule my sleep in my calendar since I need around 7-8 hours to be performing well. I’ve schedule time for meeting with friends and colleagues to watching movies. It’s not really a way to follow your schedule religiously but to track religiously.
Don’t think that you absolutely follow the calendar exactly. We’re not trying to be perfect. It’s a tool to direct us to the best use of time possible and it does that very well. Don’t be consumed by trying to be perfect because it’ll only turn to negative emotions, like hating yourself for not achieving such and such task. Instead, just track down what you did – even if you wasted the time browsing Facebook. Take the first step from Alcoholics Anonymous:
1: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol–that our lives had become unmanageable.
We are powerless unless we take responsibility of our actions. What do you have to admit?